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Hello! This is Lea Charlton. I am posting this message because the information is dear to me and will help other parents at this network.
THIS IS NOT A BUSINESS OR INTERNET MARKETING.
I consider it important "parenting information" - if not for you - then someone in your circle of family and friends (at your child's school, church or local non-profit).
An associate of mine, Traci Campbell, has been writing a book and workbook to help parents of Tweens / Teens. The initial concept is to make single parents more aware of the positive impact they can have on their children and in their personal lives. It is a program to teach them how to work with their children in handling the escalading "teen issues" that are challenging most households in this generation. I have had the benefit of reading both the rough draft of the book and the workbook this week. I think that it is good for all parents!
I want to make sure you know about it while the free audio and transcript are still available on her blog. Traci welcomes any suggestions or questions that you have regarding her The C.H.A.M.P. Within program. In fact, as with most new authors and humanitarians, eager to help with change, Traci needs your feedback. She wants to make this program as successful as she prays that it can be.
The C.H.A.M.P. Within is the "life of her story". It is a story about her mother and her personal testimony of what life was like in their single parent home. This book touches on some of the history, deficiencies and strengths needed for Traci to develop into the successful woman that she has become to date. It breaks down the complicated and overlooked challenges faced by children from single parent families, as well as the adaptations our tweens and teens make in order to survive in this society. More importantly, The C.H.A.M.P. Within program breaks down teen issues that have been neglected by the "community", as a whole, over the past few generations. This applies to both married and single parent homes.
If you are not a single parent, I urge you to pay attention. Your family might face similar teen issues OR interact with people from single parent homes.
When Traci contacted me about her 'The C.H.A.M.P. Within' program, I was extremely EXCITED. I am the mother of 2 sons and was a single parent up until very recently. One of my sons is 16 years old and the other is excitedly approaching his 11th birthday. Our single parent family has dealt with numerous challenges over the years. The first being the drastic age difference between my children and needing to support each at their level while not imposing the other. The second being that I was forced to serve as mother and father for two boys that needed both parents as role models. The third being deaths and family conflicts. The fourth major challenge was when I began experiencing "teen issues" with my older son at 12 years old.
Now, that my younger son is approaching that "tween" age, I have some fears about the possibility of what we will experience in his teen years.
This is why I was excited to hear from Traci. I can relate to the changes and support that she is attempting to provide parents, schools, churches and other non-profits through her C.H.A.M.P. program. My first child has taught me a lot, but the reality is that I know my single parent children have not always spoken important concerns through these years, and have more than likely been holding in "issues" that I can help them work through. After reading The C.H.A.M.P. Within book and reviewing the workbook, I starting becoming more aware of how I am not or am interacting with my children in manner that supports what they are not telling me. It also made me think more closely about holding firm to areas where I was previously stern, though scared that I might drive my teen away. These are the "good parenting" that I am giving no matter what the "community" may add as their input per secular values. Not because Traci says so, but because I know that I am their primary example. I also relate to areas where I can improve and I do aspire to be successful in all areas of my life, as well as to help my children do the same.
This is example of the "self help" The C.H.A.M.P. Within book fosters in the parents that read it.
This book does not have an uncommon story. It is also not a traditional "self help" resource. The C.H.A.M.P. Within is a book about her life, and serves as an example of the familiar scenario we have grown insensitive to through the years. Single parent homes, gang violence and teen pregnancy are more prevalent than ever, but the reality is that they will never be "common" issues to those of us that care.
Although Traci was raised to be an exception and innately not what we would expect from a child growing up in an urban, single parent home, everyone will get a firm understanding of the roles she assumed through her tween and teen years. Both the positive conditioning and the challenges were rewarding in her life. This is not always the case for our youth. This is because parents are not aware of what their children are digesting while they are dealing with their own emotional, financial, psychological and spiritual challenges. In Traci's story, both mother and daughter made profound contributions to one another's lives. After the death of her mother, Traci gave of herself and worked hard on herself to overcome the lingering stigmas. It takes generations of change in order to break the cycles and it would help to have more support from the community and church in raising our teen kids to become happy, healthy, successful adults.
Parents need to make these changes from within their homes; especially those living with the enormous responsibility of being single parents.
Traci stands firm to the philosophy that "It takes a community to raise a child". My grandmother explained the value of this concept all of my life. She used to emphasize what a good child she was because of two important factors that are missing from generations after hers: 1) she came from a "good" two parent home and 2) my grandmother knew that she had better behave because the neighbors, church family and schools would make sure that her parents were informed if she did not. In fact, they would call her mother well before she made it home from school, church or a friends house. Unfortunately, community support is not what it used to be. Since it is not, Traci Campbell feels compelled to help parents learn how to foster what is needed from within their homes.
The website for her Heroes At Home Radio show states it best, "Being a single parent is hard work, but it can be one of the most rewarding things you will ever do. It’s a fact: Happy, fulfilled parents grow happy kids. That’s why, as a culture, we need to start paying just as much attention to the financial, mental, and emotional well-being of single parents as we do to the children they are raising." We all know that this is what we should do as parents and "community", though the reality is that after years of socio-cultural disintegration, ignorance and selfishness (for some families), parents struggle with how to reach their teens, none-the-less know how to help them become the "better than me", "successful", "happy", "financially secure", "spiritually sound" adults that we desire our children to be. This is especially true for parents of tweens and teens from single parent homes.
Traci Campbell has done extensive research, self-development and ministry work in order to provide this program. She is also a Certified Life Coach and writes for the Chicago Examiner.
In the experiences that I have faced as a single parent, I more than agree that the community support is just as deficient as the lack of action on the parents behalf in taking responsibility for changing cycles of negligence, immorality, abuse, ignorance, lack of confidence and so on. This is not saying that we are not trying our best to become "good parents" or more successful at it than not, but we all know that the "teen years" come with "challenges". It obviously would not hurt to better educate ourselves and have guidance while our children are transitioning to tweens and teens.
This is where The C.H.A.M.P. Within workbook is nothing but a brilliant follow up to "the story of me and my mother". It fosters a different type of quality time, communication, understanding and spirituality in any household; not just single parent homes, though they statistically are at risk of experiencing major tween and teen issues.
I would like to leave you with the following recording. It is one of Traci's most recent interview with another associate of mine. I hope this provides a concrete example, for you, why Traci Campbell is releasing The C.H.A.M.P. Within and rapidly gaining credibility as the "Top Advocate for Teens & Tweens from single parent homes".
I encourage you to share the free audio and transcript with friends or family that could benefit.